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78324 No. 78324

Although I have lots of friends and loving family, I've been suffering from this lingering sadness for a couple years now because I'm single. I'm currently a senior in high school and have never dated anyone, although I acknowledge that there's plenty of time. I understand that relationships can often cause more problems than they solve, and in that respect I'm blessed, but it still makes me depressed whenever I see a happy couple in the street, or see the relationship statuses of all my friends on facebook. I know that I still have plenty of time to meet someone, and I should enjoy the non romantic relationships that I have with my friends and family, but I can't help feeling the way I do. I just wish I could be with someone special.
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>> No. 78325
I'm 25 and have only had one gf way back in highschool..
I'm more worried that I don't care anymore, than that I don't have one.
I'm probably not the best person to discuss this with.
>> No. 78326
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I'm about to start college with no romantic history behind me, so basically I'm in the same situation you are talking about. I don't let it bother me, though. I figure if I was really meant to be in a relationship then an opportunity to have one will present itself some day. Until then I'm not going to actively seek for anything, though. I feel content to be wrapped up in my own little world for now.

I sympathize with what you are saying. It would be nice to have someone who you can care about, and who cares deeply about you. It's a common held belief that every individual is born fragmented, and that we search our entire life for the other part of ourselves that can fill the holes we have. If you are a romantic, you can believe that you are destined to meet that someone sooner or later, at which point you will instantly click, like two pieces of a broken cracker being fitted back together again or something like that. If that is the case, then there is no need to worry about it. Of course that probably isn't the case, though. And you probably don't need another person to be complete either. I'm just rambling now. I'd say, try to live life without worrying, and if an opportunity presents itself, don't be too timid to grab a hold of it.
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Well you're certainly not feeling anything abnormal, nor are your feelings wrong in some way. I think the people telling you all about how there's plenty of time and you should enjoy what you have now don't necessarily have the same feelings as you do. To some people, getting married and having children is a requirement they have to fulfill at some point, and relationships are really only there to serve that purpose. Otherwise they'd remain single and maybe have some one night stands here and there. But it's not like that for everyone. Some people earnestly appreciate that companionship, rather than seeing it as an anchor, and for people like that, enjoying their time spent alone is just not going to happen.

That said, I don't have any advice for picking up a partner, but I encourage you to keep your eyes open. It's never really too early.
>> No. 78328
So seek out a relationship? Relationships don't just happen, you have to make them happen. Especially if you're looking for a girls. Girls are taught their whole lives that prospective partners won't be interested in them if they make the first step. on top of that, lots of people are just generally shy. If you want a GF/BF, you have to make it happen. Yes, you risk getting rejected, but you are never gonna gain anything by posting about it on the Internet. If you want a relationship, go out and find one. You can't just wait for someone to come to you.

> But I've already tried, it didn't work!

If you haven't succeeded yet, then you haven't tried enough. If you give up after failing one, two, three or ten times, you're never gonna succeed. Some people are just unlucky, but everyone can get one if they just keep trying until it works.
>> No. 78329
"Oh, woe is me, I have all the time in the world for myself, no one to answer to, no one is constantly bitching in my ear and no one is siphoning away my money. This must change, I must find myself a worthless parasite to do all those things."
A word of advice: get rid of that type of depression before you hit 25+ lest you end up with a used up person of low value simply because they were of correct age and gender.

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